If you’re experiencing a period of loneliness, my heart goes out to you. Whether you moved away from home for work or school or you don’t have a close relationship with family, I can only imagine how bittersweet this season feels. Movies portray the holidays as a perfect time of year when everyone comes together and is happy, but life is much more complicated.

Check out my video How to Deal with Holiday Loneliness for more tips

Regardless of your circumstances, I want to share some tips for making the most of your time alone. My husband is in the military, so I’ve spent many months getting comfortable with doing things solo. Just last year, we spent most of the holiday season separated while he was on an overseas deployment.

Here are some of my favorite solo things to do around the holidays to get in the festive spirit and embrace the alone time:

1. Drive around and look at the Christmas lights

One of my favorite holiday activities is driving around with my dog and a cup of hot cocoa to admire the Christmas lights while listening to festive music. It’s a super cheap, fun way to celebrate and embrace the season. I find it virtually impossible to be in a bad mood while looking at Christmas light displays!

2. Have a cozy night in

While I think it’s important to get out of the house and socialize, I also think it’s healthy to stay in and relax every now and then. I appreciate nights where I can kick back with a glass of wine, watch a movie, order takeout, put on a face mask, and savor my solo time. Brainstorm a few things that help you feel refreshed and set aside a night to indulge in whatever recharges you.

3. Try a new hobby

Taking a Lyra class with Shangri-La Aerial Arts

Being alone is, in my opinion, one of the best opportunities to pursue new interests. I like to make the most of my extra free time by branching out and trying things out of my comfort zone. This could be anything from signing up for a pottery-making class (which is on my list of must-try solo activities!) to tackling a DIY project or exploring upcoming local events.

4. Go to the movies

I love watching movies and take any chance I get to go on solo movie theater dates. Usually, I’ll try to go during the week or a weekend matinee so the theater isn’t too crowded. It can feel awkward to see a movie by yourself, but I’ve done it many times now that it’s obvious no one really cares or even notices. Grab your favorite drink and snacks, settle in, and enjoy the experience.

5. Volunteer

Volunteering at the 2023 Emma Crawford Coffin Races and Festival

I find volunteering to be an excellent use of solo time, especially around the holidays. Get plugged into your community to find organizations needing your time for various projects. Volunteer work isn’t always glamorous, but it’s incredibly fulfilling to pour into others and give what you can to a cause that’s greater than yourself.

6. Cook a new recipe

When I know I’m flying solo because my husband will be away, I like to experiment with new recipes and meals. I’m definitely guilty of cooking the same things over and over again—I don’t want to waste time and money on a recipe that doesn’t turn out! It’s easier for me to justify cooking new foods when I’m alone since I won’t be wasting as much food if I don’t end up liking it. For instance, my favorite recent recipe find was a tofu pumpkin curry that I’ve now incorporated into our weeknight dinner rotation.

7. Challenge yourself physically

My first solo Colorado 14er, Mount Blue Sky (formerly Mount Evans)

From festive races to holiday-themed fitness classes, now is the perfect time to push yourself physically. It can be tempting to spend the season curled up on the couch bringing Christmas movies and splurging on sweet treats.

While I can only speak from experience, I feel much better—physically, mentally, and emotionally—when I’m getting active on a regular basis. Activities like yoga, rock climbing, running, hiking, aerial silks, barre, and CrossFit have made a significant difference in feeling healthy and fulfilled while I’m alone.

8. Reach out to someone

There have been several phases of my life where I’ve felt lonely, especially after moving halfway across the country from our closest friends and family. Being physically separated from your support system can make it hard to connect with loved ones, leading to feelings of isolation.

When I begin to fill down about missing friends and family, I try to reach out and let them know I’m interested in catching up. Sure, it’s not the same as physically being with them, but it comes pretty darn close. Maintaining those long-distance relationships takes effort, but it makes you value the times you do see each other in person so much more.

9. Explore somewhere new

Travel is another huge love of mine, and I’ve been fortunate to take some incredible solo trips in the past to places like Washington, D.C. and New Mexico. Visiting somewhere you’ve never been before is so exciting and enlightening.

I’ve created many lifelong memories during my solo travel experiences, even if I was just taking a day trip somewhere nearby or exploring a neighborhood in my area. Of course, you should always put safety first—but I highly encourage anyone interested in traveling alone to go for it!

10. Handle something you’ve been procrastinating

This last tip isn’t the most glamorous, but it has been one of the most helpful in navigating alone time. Seize this opportunity to finally tackle that house project, random task, or annoying to-do that you’ve been putting off.

I completely understand not wanting to spend an afternoon reorganizing your closet, getting your teeth cleaned, or sitting on the phone with your insurance company. However, I promise you’ll feel relieved and accomplished after taking care of it once and for all.

Hopefully you’re inspired to seek joy as much as possible during the holiday season, even if you are spending it alone! At the end of the day, it’s a chance to learn more about yourself and get comfortable being independent—so maximize it to the fullest extent.